How to Keep Your Divorce Research Under the Radar

June 14, 2024

It’s not uncommon for people who come to Gentry Law Firm to be worried about their spouse finding out that they are researching the divorce process before they’re ready. If you have never been down this road before, there can be a lot to learn.


Without a doubt, it is smart to do your research if you are considering divorce or if you think your spouse may be getting ready to serve you divorce papers. You can get a strong understanding of what to expect while keeping your intentions private and your research protected until you’re ready to take the next step.


Here are a few tips for how to keep your divorce research and legal communication under wraps:

1)      Get a cheap phone with a prepaid smartphone card. In short, a burner phone is a cheap prepaid phone. There are no contracts or commitments. You do not have to provide your name or any personal information to get it. It comes with talk and text options either with a set number of prepaid call minutes, text messages, or data or there are unlimited prepaid options as well. It’s ultimately used for temporary purposes and can be disposed after you are finished with it. It cannot be traced back to you.

2)      Create a brand-new email address. Creating a new Gmail account is free and simple. Make sure your spouse doesn’t know the password, and then you can use the account for your research purposes and when you want something emailed to you from the law firms you are considering – without anyone else knowing it has been sent to you.

3)      Get a P.O. Box at a nearby USPS location. This way, you can have anything from your attorney or therapist mailed there and no one will see it but you.

4)      Finally, if you are able, apply for a credit card in your name only. Leverage the above things to have your card statements come online to your new Gmail or to the P.O. Box. While there are some law firms that do not charge for the initial consultation, some do and will require you pay that fee upon the conclusion of your consultation.


Because many of our clients over the years have been married to narcissists who are extremely controlling and abusive, we have suggested they act on the above suggestions to protect themselves. It’s extremely important that you know and feel you are not trapped. You can take action and empower yourself with helpful, life-changing information from a legal team who is compassionate and cares – all while remaining under the radar in your research and communications.


For a complimentary consultation to learn more about your rights and how to protect your future, please call Gentry Law Firm today. We are here to help. 

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