Raising children takes a lot of work under the best of circumstances. Each phase of their lives provides new challenges for parents. During the good times of your marriage, you had each other to lean on when times got tough.
Now that your relationship has deteriorated and you are contemplating divorce, you wonder whether you can continue to present a united front to the children, even though you no longer live together. Co-parenting after your divorce does not have to be fraught with contention and chaos. Instead, you could take steps to make sure that you have the best start possible.
Mediation could help
It makes sense that battling it out in court probably isn’t the way to start a good co-parenting relationship. Even so, you don’t think that you and the other parent can work out an agreement on your own. Mediation could provide the happy medium that you need. Many Georgia couples find this alternative method of resolving their differences useful. You may as well and could enjoy the following benefits the process provides:
- You and the other parent retain control over the outcome since you make all of the decisions together. The mediator does not make any of the decisions but instead helps you and the other parent stay on track and provides suggestions.
- Knowing that the two of you decide what happens in the future, instead of a judge who knows little to nothing about your family, often reduces the stress and contention that surrounds child custody matters.
- Because both of you have significant input regarding the structure of your agreement, you are both more likely to follow through with and adhere to it in the future.
- Mediation often costs less than going to court as well, which alleviates some of the pressure surrounding the other big issues in most divorces — money.
Even with all of its benefits, mediation does not work for everyone. If you begin the process and come to believe that it won’t work, you still have the option of going to court. For some couples, knowing that is the other option makes them redouble their efforts, put aside their differences and reach an agreement that satisfies them both.
You may find the same motivation and remind yourself that you are doing this in order to provide for your children’s futures in the best way possible. After all, it is their best interests that you work to safeguard as you negotiate a parenting plan and child custody agreement.