Georgians who are going through divorce are looking to make the transition into a single life as smooth as possible. But, even when it’s in the best interest of all, divorce will feel like a loss. With that loss come many of the stages of grieving: shock and denial, rage and anger, sorrow, acceptance, and finally, growth and new beginnings.

To make the process of divorce more manageable, however, it is important to not take on everything at once; approach it one step at a time. What’s in front of you will be easier to manage if you see it as bite-sized pieces, as opposed to an overwhelming whole. Additionally, it may be helpful to look at divorce as more of an opportunity and less of a crisis.

While divorce can appear ugly on the surface, approaching it with the resolution to act with dignity may make it easier to see what was once a horrible mess as an opportunity to move on to new things in life.

Grieve the loss, realize some of your material things are going to go, and see all of it as part of a greater vision of a new life and new you. At the same time, realize what you want out of the divorce. As you try to determine what will be yours and what will be for your ex-husband or -wife, make sure that you know what is worth fighting for and what you are willing to compromise on. If you want something, make sure your lawyer and your spouse know it.

It may be a long process, but the divorce will be finalized and you will be free to explore all life has to offer. Consider this a time for pursuing your interests, developing new friendships, and creating the foundation for your new — and improved — life.

Source: The Huffington Post, “How To Manage Your Divorce: Six Guidelines,” Leo Averbach, Oct. 12, 2012

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