For many Georgia couples, when they make the decision to divorce, they are certain their marriages have failed. Some marriages fell apart after one or both spouses cheated, sometimes a partner is abusive, but oftentimes the husband and wife just grow apart. For many of these couples, a divorce will be final, but there is also a growing trend of couples reconciling before actually going through with the divorce.
A recent study has been published that documents some of the ambivalence surrounding divorce. The study surveyed 2,484 people who had already filed for divorce and approximately 25 percent of them wanted to try and reconcile with their soon-to-be ex-spouse. Even more telling, however, was that, when interviewed independently, in 12 percent of some of the couples, both the husbands and wives wanted to try to restart their marriages.
These reconciliations happen at any point during the separation and divorce timeline, too. Some have barely started talking about a separation before they can work things out, but some wait until they last minute — until they have already filed for divorce — before choosing to start anew.
One reason for so many reconciliations may be the economic recession. Since 2008, there has been a steady decline in divorces; 2010 saw 65,000 fewer divorces than two years prior. Some experts believe the cost of divorcing, of having two households and of attorney fees all have led to delays in divorce. While many people believe that the number of divorces will jump significantly after the economy recovers, there are others who think couples will put off divorce or separation long enough for them to reconcile.
Source: Detroit Free Press, “Decision to divorce include uncertainty, and many people change their minds,” Sharon Jayson, Oct. 2, 2011