When most parents are getting divorced, their two biggest concerns are their assets and their children. In addition to worrying about how child custody and visitation time will be arranged, many parents also worry about the emotional well-being of their children.
In the past, it was assumed that children whose parents divorced would likely struggle. Divorced couples were referred to as having “broken homes,” and their children were forced to cope with that negative stigma. That was in a time when divorce in Marietta was uncommon. Now, with upwards of 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, children don’t have to face as much stigma.
In addition to the changed social standards, new research also supports the notion that divorce is not as hard on kids as it was once thought to be.
The research that was used previously did little to compare kids from “broken homes” with those who came from “intact homes.” As a result, if a teenager from a broken home reported being moody, there was no comparison to determine whether the teen was more or less moody than a teen from an intact home.
Recent studies also focused on kids immediately after the divorce, as well as a few years down the road. (Earlier studies focused only on kids during the divorce.) The latest research shows that 75 percent of children come out of divorce just fine, if not stronger and more resilient than their peers.
Studies show that the three years immediately following divorce are the most crucial in determining how well kids will weather the storm. If parents focus of providing their children the consistent love, attention and discipline that they need during and after the divorce, the kids will likely not suffer any irreparable damage.
Source: Huffington Post, “Does Divorce Inevitably Damage Children?” Joseph Nowinski, 20 June 2011